Therapy Tuesday

Pursuit of Happiness

Therapy Tuesday

It’s a hard life, I know it. We try to put an emphasis on how much money we have, the size of our houses, the more stuff we have, and comparing our lives to others. Oh, don’t get me started on comparing! I was going to save that topic for another day, but maybe it would be best to add it here.

Jealousy is green. What an awful color to hold on to day by day. My favorite color is blue, the color of the sky, light and airy. The color of optimisim and gentle grace.

I will be honest, I used to compare my life to how far others have gotten in a shorter period of time. It’s not easy going through each day looking at how far people have gotten in their career, achievements in general, and you’re just still starting out. More like starting over.

Every once and awhile that jealousy and comparing myself to others creeps in, but it takes just a breath to melt that jealousy away.

What helps?

  • Meditation
  • Spending time with family
  • Planning
  • Gratitude lists

It’s a short list, but it works for me. Meditation helps with focusing your attention to one thing at a time. It takes a lot of practice to really get into a groove with meditating. I know so many people have told me, it doesn’t work! There are so many different types of meditation, you just have to find something that works for you!

I don’t get to see my family often, but when I do, I am so grateful for those moments. And I don’t mean to sound like a Hallmark movie, but when I’m with my family it helps take my mind off the daily grind. Which leads me to my next point.

Planning just helps me concentrate on my own life and my goals. It’s as simple as that. It helps me list my goals, identify the steps I need to make them attainable, and motivates me to take action. As you can see from my last post, I have four planners now. The one I am truly looking forward to using is my memory keepers planner. It is truly going to help me focus on making memories with my family that truly matter.

How many gratitude lists have you ever made in your life? I mean, actually writing down what brings you gratitude for what you have? It is soooo hard to write down what I am grateful for, because I think about it often, but I can never put my thoughts onto paper. But I know, once I start, it will help build my self-esteem.

Example:

  • I am grateful for the education I received.
  • I am grateful for my husband.
  • I am grateful for my father; etc. You get the point, just start writing!

One last thing that helped me get out of the jealousy loop, taking a step back from my career. It helped me gain focus and really figure out what I wanted in life. This is not attainable for all and I truly do not recommend this unless you feel that your path is truly not working for you. It was a rough road getting back into the field, but I am extremely grateful that it is working out.

These are some points that work for me to help gain focus and concentrate on my goals to attain happiness, rather than seeing how far behind I am compared to most in society. What do you do to help keep you out of the garden, peeping into your neighbors lives?

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